Comments on: Is This Is How Families Of Special Needs Kids Are Treated? http://www.growingyourbaby.com/2008/08/02/is-this-is-how-families-of-special-needs-kids-are-treated/ Parenthood from Pregnancy to Pre-school Sun, 22 Nov 2009 03:16:21 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.1 hourly 1 By: Justine http://www.growingyourbaby.com/2008/08/02/is-this-is-how-families-of-special-needs-kids-are-treated/comment-page-1/#comment-2107 Justine Mon, 08 Sep 2008 16:18:25 +0000 http://growingyourbaby.com/2008/08/02/is-this-is-how-families-of-special-needs-kids-are-treated/#comment-2107 This just makes me sick to my stomach. It's hateful ignorant people that are raising hateful ignorant people. It's a dirty vicious cycle that I wish would end. The word "retard" should be banished from any language. There is no such thing. Children are children, and people are people. God bless you little Ashton, rock on little guy! This just makes me sick to my stomach. It’s hateful ignorant people that are raising hateful ignorant people. It’s a dirty vicious cycle that I wish would end. The word “retard” should be banished from any language. There is no such thing. Children are children, and people are people. God bless you little Ashton, rock on little guy!

]]> By: Sadie http://www.growingyourbaby.com/2008/08/02/is-this-is-how-families-of-special-needs-kids-are-treated/comment-page-1/#comment-2050 Sadie Fri, 29 Aug 2008 15:12:12 +0000 http://growingyourbaby.com/2008/08/02/is-this-is-how-families-of-special-needs-kids-are-treated/#comment-2050 I truly feel for your friend and for what she and her son had to go through. HOWEVER, since she herself is the mother of a special needs child, I would think that she would have made a point to tell say that "retard" is a rude and unnecessary slur, not just insist that her son is not a "retard". Children with special needs are all different, beautiful and deserving of respect and basic human compassion, even the "retards". I truly feel for your friend and for what she and her son had to go through. HOWEVER, since she herself is the mother of a special needs child, I would think that she would have made a point to tell say that “retard” is a rude and unnecessary slur, not just insist that her son is not a “retard”. Children with special needs are all different, beautiful and deserving of respect and basic human compassion, even the “retards”.

]]> By: Val http://www.growingyourbaby.com/2008/08/02/is-this-is-how-families-of-special-needs-kids-are-treated/comment-page-1/#comment-1979 Val Mon, 18 Aug 2008 15:29:46 +0000 http://growingyourbaby.com/2008/08/02/is-this-is-how-families-of-special-needs-kids-are-treated/#comment-1979 This story brought tears to my eyes. I used to follow Ashton's blog and have been touched by so many of the wonderful stories and milestones that Ashton has overcome. It is so sad that there are so many ignorant people in our society. Children with special needs are a gift from god and we can all learn from them because we take so much for granted in our everyday lives. Shannon is an amazing mother and as a Mom and Grandma I can only imagine the pain she felt when she heard that remark. I agree that that mother is allowing her child to be ignorant towards children with special needs. She should be teaching him to treat everyone with the respect we all as human beings so deserve. Val This story brought tears to my eyes. I used to follow Ashton’s blog and have been touched by so many of the wonderful stories and milestones that Ashton has overcome. It is so sad that there are so many ignorant people in our society. Children with special needs are a gift from god and we can all learn from them because we take so much for granted in our everyday lives. Shannon is an amazing mother and as a Mom and Grandma I can only imagine the pain she felt when she heard that remark. I agree that that mother is allowing her child to be ignorant towards children with special needs. She should be teaching him to treat everyone with the respect we all as human beings so deserve.

Val

]]> By: Lisa Witherspoon http://www.growingyourbaby.com/2008/08/02/is-this-is-how-families-of-special-needs-kids-are-treated/comment-page-1/#comment-1935 Lisa Witherspoon Wed, 06 Aug 2008 01:54:52 +0000 http://growingyourbaby.com/2008/08/02/is-this-is-how-families-of-special-needs-kids-are-treated/#comment-1935 when I first looked at this picture of Ashton, I was thrilled to see that he looks so happy with his new chair! THEN I READ THE EMAIL....and it brought tears to my eyes as i looked at the picture again. that is horrible. The woman is clearly heartless, and not teaching her son anything of value. I think i take it extra personally because the picture of Ashton reminds me of my son, Andrew, who is just over 2. Andrew suffered from a pre-natal stroke and although he is doing very well, we have been through our share of challenges as well. The picture of Ashton didn't remind me of Andrew because he was sitting in the chair, however; it reminded me of Andrew because of his big smile! Please give Ashton a big hug for us - he deserves it! Lisa when I first looked at this picture of Ashton, I was thrilled to see that he looks so happy with his new chair! THEN I READ THE EMAIL….and it brought tears to my eyes as i looked at the picture again.

that is horrible. The woman is clearly heartless, and not teaching her son anything of value. I think i take it extra personally because the picture of Ashton reminds me of my son, Andrew, who is just over 2. Andrew suffered from a pre-natal stroke and although he is doing very well, we have been through our share of challenges as well.

The picture of Ashton didn’t remind me of Andrew because he was sitting in the chair, however; it reminded me of Andrew because of his big smile!

Please give Ashton a big hug for us – he deserves it!

Lisa

]]> By: Kelly http://www.growingyourbaby.com/2008/08/02/is-this-is-how-families-of-special-needs-kids-are-treated/comment-page-1/#comment-1919 Kelly Sat, 02 Aug 2008 18:25:26 +0000 http://growingyourbaby.com/2008/08/02/is-this-is-how-families-of-special-needs-kids-are-treated/#comment-1919 Wow. Please give her a hug from this stranger. It brought tears to my eyes to read that story. I don't have kids. I hope to one day, but I don't. I have a friend who has issues like the nasty woman with equally rude little boy. She doesn't understand differences like these. She is pregnant with child #2 and I pray her kids are "normal" because I know she couldn't handle it. I think a lot of the issue is that people are ignorant. Both in the sense that they are just ignorant to other people and their feelings, but also that they are ignorant to what issues some children live with and the challenges the family faces. That's no excuse though. Before I started reading, I saw the picture and my first thought was: oh how cute is he. It's a shame others can't just look at a child, any child, and see the pure innocence and beauty they each hold. Regardless of if they are "normal" or if they have challenges like this cutie or if they are autistic, little people, wear glasses or actually are retarded. That was long winded, but as I said, it brought tears to my eyes. Please, do give her a hug from this stranger in Chicago. ~Kelly http://30somethingandsearching.today.com/ Wow. Please give her a hug from this stranger. It brought tears to my eyes to read that story.

I don’t have kids. I hope to one day, but I don’t. I have a friend who has issues like the nasty woman with equally rude little boy. She doesn’t understand differences like these. She is pregnant with child #2 and I pray her kids are “normal” because I know she couldn’t handle it.

I think a lot of the issue is that people are ignorant. Both in the sense that they are just ignorant to other people and their feelings, but also that they are ignorant to what issues some children live with and the challenges the family faces. That’s no excuse though.

Before I started reading, I saw the picture and my first thought was: oh how cute is he.

It’s a shame others can’t just look at a child, any child, and see the pure innocence and beauty they each hold. Regardless of if they are “normal” or if they have challenges like this cutie or if they are autistic, little people, wear glasses or actually are retarded.

That was long winded, but as I said, it brought tears to my eyes. Please, do give her a hug from this stranger in Chicago.
~Kelly
http://30somethingandsearching.today.com/

]]> By: Entrepreneur http://www.growingyourbaby.com/2008/08/02/is-this-is-how-families-of-special-needs-kids-are-treated/comment-page-1/#comment-1918 Entrepreneur Sat, 02 Aug 2008 16:24:40 +0000 http://growingyourbaby.com/2008/08/02/is-this-is-how-families-of-special-needs-kids-are-treated/#comment-1918 Reading this story was heartbreaking, my own son is special needs as well,he had a brain tumor removed at the age of 5 and underwent countless chemo and radiation sessions and although he is now in remission. Intellectually he will always be 5 years old,(he is 16 now btw) that does not make him a retard.It makes him a survivor. I'm sorry to say I would have let my temper get the best of me and I would have beaten the mother senseless, as if she wasn't already judging from her condoning such a remark from her childs mouth. Reading this story was heartbreaking, my own son is special needs as well,he had a brain tumor removed at the age of 5 and underwent countless chemo and radiation sessions and although he is now in remission. Intellectually he will always be 5 years old,(he is 16 now btw) that does not make him a retard.It makes him a survivor. I’m sorry to say I would have let my temper get the best of me and I would have beaten the mother senseless, as if she wasn’t already judging from her condoning such a remark from her childs mouth.

]]> By: Hilary http://www.growingyourbaby.com/2008/08/02/is-this-is-how-families-of-special-needs-kids-are-treated/comment-page-1/#comment-1917 Hilary Sat, 02 Aug 2008 14:52:48 +0000 http://growingyourbaby.com/2008/08/02/is-this-is-how-families-of-special-needs-kids-are-treated/#comment-1917 This post made me cry, then gave me goosebumps. Give your friend a HUGE {{{{{{{{{hug}}}}}}}} from a virtual stranger and tell her that there are plenty of people out there who do care and teach their children to be tender and compassionate to those who were not born with the same vitality, vigor and health as themselves. I'm sorry she allowed these ignoramuses get under her skin like that, but it was probably the proverbial straw. Ashton is a very fortunate youngster to have a such a Mom behind him! My suggestion would be to find a biography of Stephen Hawking and mail it to them! Maybe the little monster-in-formation might discover that enormous, compelling genius can be found in a wheelchair. Thank you for sharing this! ~Hilary This post made me cry, then gave me goosebumps.

Give your friend a HUGE {{{{{{{{{hug}}}}}}}} from a virtual stranger and tell her that there are plenty of people out there who do care and teach their children to be tender and compassionate to those who were not born with the same vitality, vigor and health as themselves.

I’m sorry she allowed these ignoramuses get under her skin like that, but it was probably the proverbial straw.

Ashton is a very fortunate youngster to have a such a Mom behind him!

My suggestion would be to find a biography of Stephen Hawking and mail it to them! Maybe the little monster-in-formation might discover that enormous, compelling genius can be found in a wheelchair.

Thank you for sharing this!
~Hilary

]]> By: Maria http://www.growingyourbaby.com/2008/08/02/is-this-is-how-families-of-special-needs-kids-are-treated/comment-page-1/#comment-1916 Maria Sat, 02 Aug 2008 08:57:03 +0000 http://growingyourbaby.com/2008/08/02/is-this-is-how-families-of-special-needs-kids-are-treated/#comment-1916 That is so sad. Being a mom myself, I can't imagine having to deal with something like that had I been in that situation. I would have ordered a special shirt that says "I'm a BULLY and I learned it from my MOM" or a mom version, "My son is a bully ... and he learned it from me" - and send it for Christmas (oh vindictiveness!) That is so sad. Being a mom myself, I can’t imagine having to deal with something like that had I been in that situation. I would have ordered a special shirt that says “I’m a BULLY and I learned it from my MOM” or a mom version, “My son is a bully … and he learned it from me” – and send it for Christmas (oh vindictiveness!)

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